Marriage and Relationship Counseling

Once upon a time, as a couple, you had a storybook romance. Is your storybook romance hitting a bump in the happily ever after? Is it a small speed bump or a huge detour?

Was it once upon a time, you were a couple that was able to communicate with each other? Is your marriage/relationship struggling with communication?  Words are coming out as you are talking but you both recognize that you are not hearing each other?

Are you feeling like you are always walking on eggshells as fights erupt quickly? Do your fights get nasty and you both start saying things that you regret? Or did the communication end altogether and talking is at a minimal?

What happened to the intimacy? Has sex become a chore, infrequent or not at all? What happened to the passion, the spark, the desire?

Are you wondering where the feeling of connection, friendship, romance, happiness went? Have you noticed that slowly over time those positive feelings have been replaced with feelings of loneliness, emptiness, sadness, disconnection, and neglect?

At the end of the day, are you going to bed thinking:

• “Will the fighting and nagging ever end?”
• “Will our sex life ever get better?”
• “Are we destined to just be roommates?”
• “Why are our conversations centered around the “business of the day”?”
• “He/she cares more about their family/friends/work then they do about me and my feelings.” When did I get to the bottom of my spouse or partner’s priority list?”
• “Why do I feel so lonely in my marriage/relationship?”
• “How long can I live like this?”
• “Are we meant to be together?”
• “Should I stay in my marriage or should I consider divorce?”

Almost all couples will deal with challenges in their relationship, it is unavoidable.

If you are on this page, you are probably experiencing some of them right now.

Some of the common struggles that bring couples to marriage counseling or relationship therapy are…

• Communication Breakdowns
• Managing and Resolving Conflicts
• Intimacy and Sex Issues
• Lack of Trust/Repairing Betrayals
• Physical and/or Emotional Infidelity
• Primary or Secondary Fertility Challenges
• Extended Family and Boundaries
• Finances and Money Management
• Transition into Parenthood
• Parenting Styles and Responsibilities

When you are feeling like your marriage/relationship is complicated and you don’t have the key, that is a huge stressor that can affect every aspect of your daily life.

Communication is the key. It can unlock feelings of disconnection that have been buried due to years of resentment. Research says, that couples wait at least 6 years of feeling this way before they get help. Don’t wait any longer, help is just a phone call away.

If you are living like roommates, making sure that the housework and the kids get taken care of and wondering, “How did we lose “us”?

It is time to take action. You don’t have to feel this way.

Deciding not to get help will only give the disconnection time to grow, give the resentment time to build a wall that will be hard to break down and allow criticism, contempt and unhappiness to stay in your lives.

If you don’t want to continue feeling this way and you want to stay in the relationship, contact me. I can help you discover a better way.

IMAGINE A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS…

A relationship transformed to one of renewed connection, expressed appreciation, affectionate friendship and romantic happiness built on a solid, harmonious foundation.

One where rifts are repaired so you are able to resolve past issues and negative cycles can be broken.

One where you can have conversations with understanding, empathy and validation instead of defensiveness and shutting down because you have stronger communication skills.

One that when you disagree, you can stop avoiding conflict because you can have a healthy argument with respect, void of criticism and contempt.

One that is where you can be vulnerable as your conversations will feel safe, without judgment and that will encourage honesty so you can learn to trust again.

One that you can talk about your core feelings with openness. When you rediscover each other at a deeper level, your emotional connection returns, your physical, intimate sexual connection can return as well.

One where you can once again, feel like a priority, as your bond is strengthened.

I can assist you and your loved one to LEARN TOGETHER, GROW TOGETHER, and WIN TOGETHER. I Transform Relationships, one relationship at a time. Contact me today so your relationship will be the next one to be transformed into the connected, fulfilling relationship that you both deserve.

Why choose me?

Because I am the Relationship Expert who can transform your relationship. Couples come to me because they are searching for answers. Many times, couples find that they tried to figure it out on their own and sometimes temporary solutions happen but the solution is short lived. Couples notice repetitive cycles and know they are stuck but can’t figure out what to do about it. I can help find permanent answers.

If one spouse or partner is reluctant to therapy, but they are willing to consider it, I am the person to call. I understand that talking to a therapist might be out of the comfort zone. Getting out of the comfort zone is sometimes what is needed for change to happen. The good news is very often it is the reluctant partner who is the first one to express their satisfaction with my style, approach and results.

I have expertise based on my marriage and family therapy education, specialized relationship trainings/workshops (including some of the top couples’ therapists in the world: Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Julie Gottman, Sue Johnson, Esther Perel, Michele Weiner-Davis, just to name a few), and extensive experience which includes over sixteen years of working with hundreds of couples struggling with similar concerns.

Finding a Relationship Expert is the best thing you can do for your relationship. Choosing me, a specialist who spends my time researching and knowing all about relationships will save you time and money. Why? Because I know how to find the negative relationship patterns quickly and start addressing them. Choosing a therapist who does not specialize in couples is like going to a primary family doctor for heart issues. There is a good chance that they will send you to a cardiologist so you can be in the care of a heart specialist. I am a Relationship Therapist who specializes in working with couples. When you place your relationship in my care, you are working with a Relationship Expert.

How do I work?

After hearing about your current situation from each of your perspectives and understanding your goals, I will customize your sessions to meet your needs. If you are both committed to each other and are willing to commit to the process, my strategies, tools and techniques can give you hope. My role is to help uncomplicate your marriage, figure out what is missing and discover the key to your happiness. We will uncover the root causes behind your relationship struggles so we can work on building a relationship that is the one you imagined.

Clients want to work with me because I produce results. I see couples weekly for a 75-minute session. I maintain a smaller caseload so your marriage/relationship will get the attention and focus that you deserve. Working with me is an investment that will change your life.

Would you like to work with me?

I offer a complimentary consultation. Take a positive step in making change with the decision to work with me as Your Relationship Expert. Contact me and let’s get started on creating your desired marriage/relationship with your loved one. I look forward to hearing from you.